One important question: Why did this woman make such a radical change so quickly?
When Jesus encountered the woman, He broke the normal practice of Jews and ask her, a Samaritan, for assistance. A conversation follows between the two which seems to have a lot of give and take: I am shocked that you are asking me for water. If you knew who was asking you, you would ask him for water that would quench your thirst for eternity.
In the middle of all this, Jesus says something to the woman that causes her to allow him to change her life. He told her that He knew she was living with a man outside of marriage, and that she had been married five times before this. He told her that He knew she had been immoral and was continuing her sinful ways.
This caused the woman to change her life. Why? It doesn’t make sense that a Samaritan woman would be so impressed with the accusations of a Jewish man. There must be more to this. Jesus’ tone must have conveyed His concern for her. She must have felt that she was being addressed as a person, not as an object of scorn by Jews or even by men in general. Jesus’ tone must have said to her, My dear woman, you can be better than this. He speaks to her heart and her heart turns to Him.
You can be better than this.
Recently that phrase has been bouncing inside my head, not just as something I say to others, but as something I say to myself. I can be better this. I can be better than an immoral society that sees sex as a recreation and morality as a trite vestige of the past. I can be better than a society that seeks fulfillment in material possessions and condemns itself to the meaningless acquisition of stuff. Even if there have been times that I (and you) have not been different, have not been holy, for holiness is to be set aside, different for the Lord.
Perhaps, the problem is that we tend to see sin as either mortal or superficial fluff. So, if we haven’t committed a mortal sin, we think that we are not that bad and we don’t see the weight our behavior lays on ourselves, or on others. We don’t see the pain we are inflicting on the Body of Christ because, after all we just stubbed its toe; we didn’t amputate its foot. Maybe some of the reasons why we are not better is that I have not really tried hard to be better. Perhaps that temper, that lack of patience, that bad language on the road, etc, that you bring to reconciliation every time pops up again quickly because you are not convinced that you can be better than you have been. Perhaps, if you are involved in serious sin, you don’t go to confession because you have given up the fight and feel you will not be able to avoid the sin in the future. Maybe you are selling yourself short. Maybe I am too.
Jesus transformed the woman at the well because He was concerned about her. He wanted her to be the best person she could be. He told her that she could do it. And she heard His message screaming to her in her heart. She determined to change her life and then wanted to shout out to the world that she had an experience of the Messiah.
That is why we seek penance during Lent. That’s why we go to confession throughout the year. We know that Jesus loves us. We know that He cares for each of us individually. We know that He sees the bumps and bruises of our lives that we impose upon ourselves and others. He doesn’t condone our sins, be they big or little. He hurts for us. He wants us to be better. And His Love transforms us. We want to be better because we also want to have a constant experience of the Messiah’s love.
Our Lord makes us want to be better than we are. His overpowering love gives us the courage to change our lives and to embrace His Life. The blood that poured from his wounds on the passion has ignited our bodies with the fire of his Love.
You can be better than this, He says to us in the tender, warm voice of Love.
And we will be better.
 Sunday 24th February, 2008, 3rd Sunday of Lent. Readings: Exodus 17:3-7. If today you hear his voice, harden not your hearts-Ps 94(95):1-2, 6-9. Romans 5:1-2, 5-8. John 4:5-42.